How to Get Your Ex to Talk to You
69If you've been trying desparately to get your ex to talk to you but am having no luck, here are some reasons why:
You're bugging them too much:
Have you been trying to contact them way too often? Whether its calling, txting or emailing, it's clear right now you need to BACK OFF. The most important thing after someone wants to break up is listen to what they say and follow it! If your ex has said very specifically they don't want any contact with you then DON'T contact them. Whatever your reasons may be, DON'T keep bugging them, it will only make them avoid you more.
Arguing your point too much:
Are you constantly trying to prove you're right and they're wrong? Whether it was their fault or not, if you try to prove you're right all the time or making excuses for something you did wrong, they're bound to get sick of it. Put yourself in their shoes and whether you believe it or not, learn to agree you at least see where they are coming from and don't drag along a 'BUT' at the end of that discussion. Saying 'But something' just completely destroys what you have just said.
Arguing/Critizing or acting negative:
This should be a no brainer. If you want your ex to talk to you, don't critize, belittle or argue with them. Treat them well and with respect.
Now most importantly if your ex wants space, GIVE IT TO THEM. Show that you listen and care about what they want and you have their best interest at heart. Don't simply assume talking to them about how much you love them is what they want to hear. Perhaps the reason for the break up was because you just didn't listen to what they really wanted, NOW is the time for you to prove you've changed for the better.
You might be wondering how any of these help for getting your ex to talk to you. It might seem counter-productive but it's really not. You're doing what your ex wants, once they see that you are doing what they want, they will stop associating negative feelings towards you.
How long should you wait?
Give them at least a week, then test the waters. When you do re-initiate contact you need to make sure you don't say the wrong things or it might put you further back.
Quick Tips for things you should do:
- DO agree with them, remember get on their good side
- DO be grateful, for them talking to you, being with you etc
- DO accept where they want the relationship to go from here
Quick tips for things you SHOULDN'T do:
- Don't bring up they were wrong
- Don't argue with them
- Don't start crying/begging/threatening or saying things to make them feel guilty
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What if you said something you should not of said and broke you partners spirit. Like since you have been in my life my luck has gone down the toilet. I am so sorry partner had nothing to do with this bad housing market and how i could of put that blaim out there was so wrong guilt i will never get over. I spoke to fast and i am so sorry.
My ex and I have been broke up for awhile. I mean years. and he and I started talking recently and then I put too much pressure on the situation to get back togeher. I drove him nuts...to the point where he told me he couldn't talk to me anymore...He said we'd never be together again...(he has said that before)..
We haven't spoken in a month, and I sent him a text saying that I missed him as a person, and if we never end up together--fine. But that I'd just like to talk to him sometime...
He never responded back, and that was a week ago. What do I do? Just move on? forget about talking ot him ever again? or just give it time? I miss him and his jokes, even if they were at my expense sometimes...Please, anybody give me something
Well he might never wnt to talk cuz there was too much pressure im sorry but ur just goin to accept his desion
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I broke up with my girlfriend of 10 years about 1 yr ago. I walked out on her and totally regret it. She is the love of my life. We started talking again about 4 months ago and we were going back and forth and I wastrying to have ggod energy around her and not bring up anything etc. I finally had to admit my love for her because I couldnt take it anymore. She denied me and said she has moved on etc. I didnt harass her but I did press her a little and finally she blew up on me and said she had enough , noe more phone calls etc even though the only crazy thing I did was come to the store she wroks in which is a retail store on a busy street anyone can go to. she got mad about that and I think thats what set her off. We havent spoke in over a month and I am ok with moving on but I want to give it one more shot as I have nothing to lose. How should I go about this? Any advice, Remember I dumped her and really regret it. Any help would be aprreciated. She also told me told me she has a boyfriend but they may be a lie..thx
i started going out with my bf on wensday and today is friday and he broke my heart becuz of what his friend told him and its not true how can i get him t understand i love him and need him and will never do anything 2 hurt him
ex boyfriend back 3 years ago
Yes, i agree that taking a break and giving them breathing room is a key point if you want to get your ex boyfriend back or get an ex to talk.